Do we give our children the wrong signals? When they are babies and were learning, when they did something wrong, we spanked them (black mothers from the ole school did). We thought we were doing what was right and teaching our child right from wrong. But did we? Or did we instill in them that being hit was OK? Think about it. If my mother hit me then its OK for my man/boyfriend to hit me too. I remember when my grandmother whipped me after she was done whipping me she would always say, "Tell me you love me." Right at that moment, I wasn't thinking about telling her I loved her, I was thinking about how my butt hurt, and how long it would be before I could sit down without a pillow. We learned from what our parents and grandparents did because that was the time that we grew up in. TV was still a baby when I was born, we had no video games, Wi-Fi, Cell Phones, Internet, FACEBOOK, My Space, etc. Parents weren't afraid to whip their children. As I told my children, You came out of my body and nobody was going to tell me how to correct my child. There wasn't so much violence back in the day as it is today. Maybe that is why our children are getting mixed messages. When you child wakes up each day, before he/she walks out that door, tell them, "I love you," and give them a great big hug. Tell them also, "God loves you too." 
Blessed be the name of the Lord.
Have a blessed day.

Identifying Suicide Warning Signs

Bullying is not just restricted to schools, but is actually happening all around. Bullying can cause great hurt and upset, which does not always lead to an ideal ending. Words can be very hurtful to people. Bullying is not only present in children, but happens to adults to. Whether it be in the workplace or the next door neighbor, bullying is everywhere.

It is common for adults and children to suffer in silence. Bullying can progress more and more, until someone can't possibly take anymore. Bullying is often untreated as schools and businesses, commonly fail to spot the signs. There is sometimes a lack in preventative measures, demonstrated by schools and work places. This can prove to be very frustrating for any individual suffering from bullying. This can often lead to people moving house, quitting their job and quitting school.

Bullying can occur in a number of different ways. Firstly we have physical bullying, where a child is physically attacked. This could be with a persons own bear hands, or weapons may be used to cause harm. Verbal bullying includes harassment and name calling and can be just as hurtful as other forms of bullying. Verbal bullying can occur face to face, but even worse people can be harassed and tormented, with the use of electronic devises and this form is known as cyber bullying. Electronic devises such as mobile phones, instant messaging and the internet are very common.

In some circumstances bullying can often lead to suicide. It can be hard to identify the suicide signs, especially when you are not aware of any problems. Suicide is very shattering for many and can leave people wondering why. The suicide ways are not very pleasant and no family should have to go through the pain, of knowing a member of their family was left feeling helpless. Imagine how hard it is to cope with bullying, day in day out. Those worst hit by bullying are those, who do not talk about it.

Suicide warning signs are not always obvious as some people will suffer in silence. Suicide can leave friends and family confused and distraught. There has been a steady increase in the rate of suicide deaths. It is important that parents, family, teachers and employers have an understanding of some of the suicide warning signs. Below are some suicide warning signs that people should be made aware of:

1)People talking about wanting to hurt, or kill themselves.

2)Uncontrolled rage and anger.

3)A feeling of being trapped and helpless.

4)Unusual and risky behaviour.

5)Withdrawing themselves from people.

6)Disruptions with eating and sleeping patterns.

7)Showing a lack of interest in hobbies and life in general.

8)Alcohol or drug dependent.

These signs are only a small selection of those which may become visible. If someone close to you is acting different, it is important to try and identify the cause. By talking to them you may be able to help them through and problems. The list of suicide warning signs is big, therefore if you think someone is not acting their usual self, then it is important to identify the cause, before it's to late.

Teenage Stress
By: Trevor Dumbleton

 It has often been said that the teenage years are the "best years of your life". However, anyone who says that does not remember what it is like being a teenager. Between school, life, parents, friends, and the fact that all of them want all of your time, there is no way to get away from the petty concerns and strains that can lead to serious stress. However, nobody seems willing to give up any of the time they demand from you, so you find yourself torn in a thousand different directions with nowhere to turn to for help. Fortunately, you do not need to deal with stress all on your own. Rather, you can find plenty of help, just as long as you look for it. Unfortunately, teenagers rarely look for help and many of the assets available to them are simply ignored. Thus, your teen stress keeps getting worse.
The first place to look for relief from teen stress is at school. There is a certain class of people who desperately want to help teens get through their problems and find solutions, but they usually sit in their offices waiting in vain for someone to talk to them. These people are guidance counselors and they are there to help you. However, it is very rare for someone to avail themselves of this prime opportunity for assistance, so actually sitting down with somebody is a treat for them and they will do all they can to help. True, most people think that guidance counselors are really just lost souls who can't seem to get out of school, but that is not the case. Guidance counselors decided on their career because they want to help others. Which means that they want to help you.
As well, you can get help for teen stress through your teachers. True, most of the help you get will probably be for your work in the classroom but, strange as it may seem, teachers are actually human beings. They want to connect with their students so that, when you go to see them, they will be happy to help you. If you go to them in order to get help with your schoolwork, they will happily give you assistance. They can help you through any issues or difficulties that you may be having and you will can learn more from them after class than you will during class. Such one-on-one sessions can help them narrow down issues in a way that they cannot while they are lecturing to a room full of students.
Additionally, once you sit down with your teachers, you may actually discover that you enjoy talking to them. After all, to repeat a point, they are people. And because they spend so much time in the company of teenagers, they understand teen stress. However, they also understand it from a philosophical perspective that can breathe some fresh air into the problems that you are confronting. Though you may not always enjoy the answers they can provide, they will be worth thinking about and, in the fullness of time, you will probably discover that they provided a very good insight into your problems.
Another excellent source for teen stress is with your parents. This is because of a simple fact that you may not want to accept. This is the simple fact that parents tend to have children who are very similar to them. No, it's really not pleasant to think about, since that means that you may turn out to be like your parents. But, let us put that aside for now.
Your parents were once your age (strange as that may seem) and teens often have to go through very similar problems. Thus, your parents have felt teen stress and they know what it is like. Sure, they may not want to admit that it was anything special, but they will, hopefully, remember that it was not easy at the time. So if you really need to get some sort of advice or help, sit down and talk to your parents. Not only will you get some sort of help, but you will also make their day. After all, how many parents get the chance to really connect with their teenage children?
Teen stress is one of the hardest things to get through, but you can rest assured that it has been done. Billions of people in the world have all had to go through the travails of the teenage years and they have through to the other side. So prepare yourself, get help when you need it, and look for help when you can. By relying on people who have "been there, done that" you can see your way clear to the other side. Then, you can safely look back on your teen stress and say stupid things like, "the teenage years are the best years of your life!"

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